Week 1 - Blog 2 Pet Peeve

I don't know if pet peeves count as a knowledge issue, but this has to do with racism so I assume this counts.  Now if you don't remember I am Asian.  Ever since elementary I have mainly had white and black friends, because I never went to the typical "Asian" church and wasn't in any ESL classes to help with my speaking skills.  Therefore, I here racist comments all the time.  Now I am not saying I am the only one getting these racist comments and I honestly have never taken any offense to any racist remark towards me.  My pet peeve is when people have to ask me for there permission to be racist jokingly.  First off, I feel offended that the person asking thinks I am a little skimp living in the 1900's who doesn't know what a joke is.



I do have a sense of humor so unless someone actually prevents me from doing something because I am Asian than it is fine. If you ever want to be racist around me than go for it, because 99% of the time I understand that people are joking.  I am also conflicted on how to respond to if someone asks me to be racist. If I say, "No don't make fun of Asians." they will think I am some weird kid who can't take a joke and is uncomfortable to be around, but if I say, "Sure." It makes me feel like I am some submissive wimp who lets people say demeaning remarks in my face. The third option is to explain this to whoever asks, but obviously that's uncomfortable to everyone, because only strangers ask that question. Fortunately Drake's mom has a saying that achieves a solution to this problem.

Drake's mother said, "Don't ask for permission. Just ask for forgiveness".   This is much better, because more often than not I laugh at the racist words and if you feel bad, say you're sorry.  After I can tell you myself that it doesn't offend me. I'm pretty sure I can speak for a lot of people too and not just me. Take you females for example. Now I have never heard anyone say this before, but what if someone asked you if they could say sexist things around you? Wouldn't you be at least a bit offended? Wouldn't you think something like, "Well I don't care if you make a sexist joke, but now that you ask HELL NO!"? I realize I am putting words into some people's mouths, but still... It's discriminative.

Now honestly this pet peeve doesn't piss me off that much, but it's just kind of annoying. I usually end up saying, "Whatever" and it works out. Just... Now you know.